Comments on: Love Them

By: barelyknittogether

barelyknittogether — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 17:29:22 +0000

I know my situation pales in comparison to yours, but I understand a little bit. Watching the teen go throgh some hard times is making me realize just how little you can do for a child. They are their own people after all, and damn it all to hell. I wanted to protect her from making my mistakes, but there she goes. It’s disturbing my world to have to raise these two little ones without even being able to pretend that I can have any control of the outcome.

But the good news is some day we will sit around drinking wine on my porch, complaining about their adult decisions and remembering how hard it all was. xoxo

By: Melissa

Melissa — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 14:38:45 +0000

I pretty much live in continual fear and trauma these days. I have a mentally ill 17yo that I believe I did mostly the right things for, the right amount of letting go, choices, encouragement, etc etc. But terrible things happened anyway. The old Crap Shoot theory. Now I have a 15 yo that I think is making the normal amount of teen choices and mistakes, but I now have a sort of PTSD that makes me feel sick all the time about what she is doing and whether she is ok and safe. And I look at my 12 and 9 yo’s and think how I just don’t know how I will go through this two more times. It’s too much.

By: alantru

alantru — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 23:18:26 +0000

Hah! FJ. Too rich!

By: nursemyra

nursemyra — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 07:32:48 +0000

ooops…. i mean FJ

By: nursemyra

nursemyra — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 07:32:24 +0000

oooh TL – that’s a little below the belt

By: fundamentaljelly

fundamentaljelly — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 03:28:03 +0000

Now that MJ died, you can rest easy, your children will be safe.

By: womaninblack

womaninblack — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 15:26:13 +0000

I can bring tears to my own eyes in a blink if I even think about letting either of my children go. But I’m doing it, and they’re enjoying it, and I’m thinking about getting a dog when they’re both at university.
Which I will never let go.

By: Bob Trusty

Bob Trusty — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 10:06:13 +0000

i wouldnt blame my mum! shes the greatest! I dont know that much about my dad, but im sure that he was a great chap, even if he wasnt in my life! LOSTL! Its funny, but i dont think i miss him at all!

I have mum and thats all there is to it. She even breastfed me until i was 5ish and i had teeth! she said that i bit too hard sometimes. Oh wells! gone are those days!

The best thing she ever taught me though, was to be a lover, not a fighter! And that everyone will laugh at me, which i now use in my acting because i love comedy! LOSTL!

Stay lovely BKT!

Bob

By: nursemyra

nursemyra — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:46:15 +0000

I’ve raised mine and they’re off my hands now. I think I did an ok if slightly unconventional job – they’re both happy and healthy anyway.

By the way, I’ve got the recipe for gayness if any mother out there would like to “turn” their son

By: Scott Oglesby

Scott Oglesby — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 07:15:42 +0000

I’m not sure of the exact situation but I feel that as long as you’ve given all the love and support you could, you’ve done everything you could. You still are doing everything you can. What more can you do?
I know that as parents we do tend to worry and fret way too much. I know that in many cases our kids have to find out the hard way. Whether it’s with wanting to watch a scary movie when they are 12, then being to scared to sleep, or sneaking too much candy before bed and then suffering the stomach ache. Even sometimes the big scary stuff when they are older, sometimes humans HAVE to learn from experience. During this ordeal though, they will know that you always were, and always are, and always will be there for them. Forever. I think that is all a wonderful gift. You are a terrific parent, no matter what happens!